Finding Happiness

finding happy

Sometimes a little stress is healthy. A stressful situation can force you to run around, test your skills, and push yourself further than ever before. It can be a great motivator and a little stress is necessary sometimes.

But stress is also sneaky.

I’ve noticed some changes in myself lately. I’m slower and sleepier. I get less enjoyment out of the gym so I don’t really go. I’ve found myself giving negative responses faster and speaking up about things that are better left unsaid. Basically I haven’t been my best self. So I started thinking about why this could be happening and after a little reflection exercise I realized that I’ve slowly become stressed without even realizing it. I’m sure you can relate. One thing happens, than another, a few days later it’s something else.

You have a late night.
Then you hit snooze too many times and end up rushed in the morning.
Almost late to work, but you made it just in time!
…Just in time for a surprise meeting you’re unprepared for.
Pull out of the parking lot and straight into traffic.

I think you get the picture. Lately the timeline above seems normal not stressful- but the truth is that my normal has become stressful. I’ve never really thought about how quickly small stressors can add up over time. So to combat my hectic days I’ve decided to create a little goal list for this month to help me find a little more happiness.

  • Go to at least 1 yoga class
  • Spend at least 5 hours a week reading
  • Take Allegra on longer walks
  • Buy a bottle of wine

When I first started blogging I started to do monthly goals based off of the chapters in The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. I’m not good at goal lists so this fizzled out pretty quickly, but I purposefully made this one more fun and very simple to give myself the opportunity to complete it.

I’ll report back next month. In the meantime, stress-relieving tips are always welcomed!

February Goals

Last month everyone was giving all of blogworld their year long resolutions and I was giving you guys some measly month long goals instead. Welp, January is over and we’re already 11 days into February.  It seems like a good time to finally update you guys, huh?

Here’s a reminder of my old January goals:

  • Create Lists –this happened!
  • Utilize my planner/plan ahead – this… kind of happened
  • Get ready for bed earlier – this definitely did NOT happen
  • Wake up earlier – same as above
  • Get ahead on blog posts – man, I really stunk at these goals
  • No. More. Procrastinating. – hahahha!
  • Clean out my closet/de-clutter – that’s a big no.

So, looks like January was a big fail on that, but here’s the thing – I started mid month and I spent almost a week of January in Texas. So I’m going to give myself a fresh start with some more fun goals instead.

february goals

 You read that right! This month is more about fun than getting organized.

Yeah sure- I’d still like to clean out my closet, but I want to enjoy my month more. I spent the first week of February sick and that just stinks. I also have to work every weekend this month. Sick + extra work just seems exhausting and terrible, but I don’t want to look at a whole month in a negative way. So instead, I’m going to act happy until I am happy. I’m going to laugh and I’m going to smile and I’m going to spend some time with my girls!

Why girl nights and not extra Dean nights? Because I firmly believe that healthy relationships are made by two heathy individuals and nothing brings me back to my roots more than a little bit of me time, ice cream and some time with my favorite ladies. Craft nights? Chick flicks? The Kardashians? Dean could care less, but my girls and I could spend hours with any one of these things and sometimes I just need these things. Amiright?

Maybe I’ll get ahead on some blog posts, but maybe I won’t. I’m going to spend this month celebrating every moment I’m healthy and not at work.

What things make you guys feel good?
What’s your favorite thing to do on a girls night?
Do you guys have any goals for the month?
How are those resolutions goin’?

With Luck

PS- Did you know that both men and women feel less lonely when they get time with girls? Gretchen Rubin told me that. Her research found that girls tend to be more empathetic causing both men and women to find girl time to be more intimate and enjoyable than boy time. (You can find this on page 52 of The Happiness Project, if you were wondering.)

Pshht…As if you needed another excuse for a girls night…


Monthly Resolutions

January Goals

So, I’ve been trying to ignore the idea of posting resolutions on my blog. Truth is, I’m not very good at keeping them. But I started reading the book The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and I’ve changed my mind- kinda.

I tend to write really long lists with too many goals and then I don’t know where to start. I usually randomly pick a few goals to start, but give me a few months and I’ve completely forgot about them (I probably already forgot that there was a list in the first place). Not this year!

Have you read The Happiness Project? I literally just started (page 48 -what! what!) but basically Gretchen decides on 12 categories of life that she wants to work on and she concentrates on one per month.  She also creates a way to chart her goals to keep herself on track. By concentrating on a new set of priorities each month, she gives herself time to create habits in necessary areas before starting on the next piece of the puzzle. It’s a big chain and each month she adds a new link. You go girl!

the happiness project

So the “Getting Started” section promises that I’ll be able to make my own happiness project at the end of the book (with the help of my new paperback and her website), but I’m too impatient. (Sounds like something I should make a resolution about, huh?) Instead, I’m going to post a little list of personal goals of each month and we’ll see how it goes.

Month One (aka January) = Organization & A Positive Routine

So the plan here is to pay attention to/ try out some of the following things (hey, at least one has to help, right?)

  • Create Lists
  • Utilize my planner/plan ahead
  • Get ready for bed earlier
  • Wake up earlier
  • Get ahead on blog posts
  • No. More. Procrastinating.
  • Clean out my closet/de-clutter

I’m not sure if I’ll keep up with these mini goals each month – I’m not even sure if I’ll keep up with these this month.  But for now, the plan is to keep these in mind throughout the day and see what happens. I’ll let you know where I stand at the end of the month!

How do you keep yourself organized?
Do you set New Years resolutions? How about small goals throughout the year?
What are some other things I should keep in mind while working towards my January goals?

With Luck