Finding Happiness

finding happy

Sometimes a little stress is healthy. A stressful situation can force you to run around, test your skills, and push yourself further than ever before. It can be a great motivator and a little stress is necessary sometimes.

But stress is also sneaky.

I’ve noticed some changes in myself lately. I’m slower and sleepier. I get less enjoyment out of the gym so I don’t really go. I’ve found myself giving negative responses faster and speaking up about things that are better left unsaid. Basically I haven’t been my best self. So I started thinking about why this could be happening and after a little reflection exercise I realized that I’ve slowly become stressed without even realizing it. I’m sure you can relate. One thing happens, than another, a few days later it’s something else.

You have a late night.
Then you hit snooze too many times and end up rushed in the morning.
Almost late to work, but you made it just in time!
…Just in time for a surprise meeting you’re unprepared for.
Pull out of the parking lot and straight into traffic.

I think you get the picture. Lately the timeline above seems normal not stressful- but the truth is that my normal has become stressful. I’ve never really thought about how quickly small stressors can add up over time. So to combat my hectic days I’ve decided to create a little goal list for this month to help me find a little more happiness.

  • Go to at least 1 yoga class
  • Spend at least 5 hours a week reading
  • Take Allegra on longer walks
  • Buy a bottle of wine

When I first started blogging I started to do monthly goals based off of the chapters in The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. I’m not good at goal lists so this fizzled out pretty quickly, but I purposefully made this one more fun and very simple to give myself the opportunity to complete it.

I’ll report back next month. In the meantime, stress-relieving tips are always welcomed!


  1. I actually just wrote about happiness this week after learning about a documentary called ‘Pursuing Happiness’. One thing that makes me happy and helps me de stress is meditating. Not the type of sitting cross-legged on the floor, but more of a moment in time to reflect. Reflect on the day, reflect on my breathing, and let’s me check in with my body. Square breathing is one of my favorite types of meditating when I only have a few minutes.
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    • I feel like I take a lot of time to reflect on my day, but not enough time to accept my day and center myself again. I’m definitely going to look into square breathing and this documentary!

  2. Did you like that book? I read it with high, high hopes and actually found it not helpful at all. haha am I just weird? I thought it was all “fluff” and not really actionable. With that being said, I think setting goals like you have IS helpful.
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    • I didn’t finish the book to be honest. I found the facts and figures to be really interesting and the idea of concentrating on one aspect of your life a month was pretty cool… but the writing seemed really drawn out and I ended up bored half way through.

  3. I also recently realized how stress can add up so quickly and overwhelm me if I don’t de-stress myself. It feels like I’m in the same routine you mentioned (late night, too early of a morning, running late). I know I need to make lifestyle changes (I recently wrote about this on my blog), but I’m hoping I have the motivation to keep it going.

    Have you seen Hector & The Pursuit of Happiness on Netflix? It’s a funny, emotional movie. I watched it the other day and enjoyed it.
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    • Motivation is the hardest part for me , too. It’s easy for me to think of new ideas and get excited for change, but it’s really hard for me to keep going. Life moves so fast and I just don’t have that much time at home. I feel like it’s hard for most of us to get to bed early enough to have a relaxing morning just to go to work and do it all again, you know? But that’s probably a poor way of looking at daily life. Maybe the key is in focusing on the positive and taking baby steps to get us more positives! I’m going to head over to your blog to read more about your take on it now 🙂

      Jen from A Traveling Wife just mentioned that documentary in another comment! I’m definitely going to have to watch it this weekend.

  4. Ive actually been struggling with this myself lately. We are adjusting to lupus. Its certainly stressful as we also just bought a house and emily’s working 80% of the time now and that means less money. I’m a champ at looking at the bright side and managing money. What I am not great at is putting my stress on others esp with my job. Needing a shoulder vs. being the shoulder..Ms. Dice you know what I’m talking about with the job. So, i’ve started to write… haven’t started a blog yet as i would love to. I need to be more consistent in my personal writing first. I am extremely creative and I really want to get back to the art in my life. Life is beautiful…until next time.

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