An Unpacking Playlist

an unpacking playlist #moving
So I’m not going to lie to you, the last few months have been a little hard- really fun, but still kind of hard.  Dean’s been struggling through work changes and training. I’ve been struggling to find and land a job I’m actually excited for. We’re still living with my dad and apartment hunting really stinks. BUT ALL OF THIS CHANGES THIS WEEKEND.

We officially found an apartment last week and we are moving everything in this weekend. We’re packing and filling and buying and laughing and it’s amazing. And it’s even better because I start my brand new job in just over a week! It finally feels like things are coming together and I’m so excited to see what that means for Dean and I, both as a couple and as individuals.  And these songs below? Oh they bring us both soooo much joy. They will forever remind me of open windows, Florida sunshine, and the excitement of unpacking and preparing for our new lives to start….. and they’ll be on repeat for weeks to come.

 



 

PS- Photo from packing up in PA

Life Lessons From Childhood Friends

life lessons from childhood friends

 

 

I believe that a single statement can rock your soul or widen your world view. It’s never when you expect it, but it’s always exactly what you need.  Sometimes something is said in a way that resonates with you. Have you ever felt this?

The first time I had that moment, I was just a kid.  I was sitting in the cafeteria  in 7th grade staring at my first ever B- test grade and I was angry. I was a good student growing up so this score rattled me and at lunch I let my whole table know how I felt. I don’t even remember what I said, but it was probably very middle school, very rude and assuming. Things like “that test was unfair!” or “that teacher definitely did this on purpose” probably came out of my mouth. You know, teen angst and all that.

Finally I was interrupted by my friend, Sam*. She said something like the following:

 

“You might be upset about your score, but I almost failed. If you’re B-is that bad, how do you think you’re making me feel? I was ok with my score until you started saying all of this.”

My world was rocked. I had a bad day AND I just made one my best friends and one of the smartest girls I knew, feel terrible. What a jerk! I was silent and embarassed for the rest of the day.

 

It’s such a silly story, right? Even though it’s so small, I really credit Sam for my current worldview. This lesson has taken on so much meaning in my adult life. Besides knowing when to keep my mouth shut, it also taught me empathy. It taught me awareness. It’s taught me to be grateful and to have more humility. I’ve also learned that people who have what they need, often don’t notice those who don’t. Sometimes people get so stuck on making things work for themselves and getting to the next level that they don’t even notice all those people who are trying to do the same thing. They don’t realize how their actions are affecting others. As a basic rule, none of these things are good. So thanks, Sam, for helping to shape me into a better, more aware human.

 

*Sam (not her real name) and I don’t speak much anymore (because unfortunately childhood friendships fizzle away sometimes), but she’s still an amazing human.  She is supportive and honest and will give you the shirt off her back. She has a quick-wit, was an all-state runner, and she was the girl who would tell you that you had stuff in your teeth before you left lunch. She’s now a lawyer and recently accepted an active duty position with the JAG Corps. She’s doing big things and she’s exacty the kind of person you’d hope to have there. 

 

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15 for 2015.

15 for 2015

 

 

  1. Reach Out: be a better friend.
  2. Be Nice: no more negative talk about others.
  3. Read: more books, less TV.
  4. Get Active: yoga, gym, dog walks, whatever.
  5. Listen: get lost in music.
  6. Discover Confidence: Learn to love my body.
  7. Re-Connect: A week without social media.
  8. Learn: one-on-ones with ms. Rosetta Stone.
  9. Travel: visit a new place.
  10. Save: $10 a week.
  11. Donate: something old for something new.
  12. Say Yes: new life experiences
  13. Give: time to a worthy cause
  14. Nourish Love: more date nights
  15. Enjoy life.

An Ugly Holiday OOTD

ugly sweater party

 

Hi! How have you winter holidays been?  Mine have been good, thanks. Nice and warm and strangely quiet!

 

I’ve been spending a lot of quality time with family, just hanging around and enjoying everyone’s company. It’s been great to see some family members this season that I havent been able to hang out with in years! I also had the amazing surprise of attending a Christmas Eve family party that quickly turned into an Ugly Christmas Sweater get-together. I got official word of the change on Christmas Eve and found myself at Target grabbing anything and everything tacky that I could get my hands on. I got home and tried to sew anything and everything onto a sweater and totally failed. In the end my dad and I literally stapled garland and tied bows onto some clearance women’s sweaters that I found…. actually, hilarious probably doesn’t really cover it.

 

ugly sweater party

 

The star of the night was my mistletoe ball headpiece.. which was a “kissing ball” bobby pinned to my head. It was super fun to wear and I got funny comments everywhere I went. It will definitely be a returning accessory next Christmas. More updates coming soon, but what have YOU been up to?

 

ugly sweater party

Interview Prep- Part One

iNTERVIEW PREP- what to research and how to prepare

Over the last few months Dean and I have been actively job hunting. I forgot how painful this process is! I feel like I have a hundred different resumes for various jobs and then I have even more cover letters. My computer is overly packed out with personal information, but of course these are just the beginning. You still have to fill out the individual job applications, maybe go through a background check and then you’re waiting for a call or email to show up. And then after days/weeks/months, you’re lucky to get a few interviews. This job hunt thing is no joke! So when I get a call requesting an interview, you better bet that I’m going to do everything I can to put my best foot forward.

Now I don’t want to brag, but I think I’m a pretty good interviewer. I’ve been lucky enough to be on the other side of the interview process for my last few jobs and I think I’m the kind of person I would call back for a second meeting. The key is to be just the right amount of both confident and nervous, which sounds weird, but it’s totally true. You want to show confidence because you’ve totally got this! You’re amazing, well dressed, and perfectly qualified. However, you also have to be humble and realize that a lot of other great, well dressed, qualified individuals probably applied, too. It’s good to be a little nervous- you’re feeling this way because you actually care about this job! And that’s important to convey.

So, as a person who’s been on both sides of this interview process one too many times, I’ve put together two posts to help you prepare for your next interview. First up, let’s talk about how to mentally prepare.

 

  • DO RESEARCH – Find out everything you can about the company. Look into the company’s mission, vision and values. Stalk out your potential interviewer on LinkedIn. Reread the job listing and then reread it again. Know how you fit this listing. Why is this job perfect for you? Be prepared to let others know why this job is a good fit. Be prepared to let others know what you are hoping to get from this job. You want to be qualified, but ideally this job is a little bump up from your last job. Be aware and be real about the fact that you’re going to have a lot to learn. I always like to tell my interviewer both what I hope to bring to the job and what I hope to take away from the job. Why is hiring you a mutually beneficial decision for both you and your potential company?
  •  EXPLORE COMMON INTERVIEW QUESTIONS- We all know that some questions are inevitable- in fact, I don’t think I’ve ever completed an interview that didn’t involve the following 5 questions:
    1. Tell me about yourself
    2. Why are you interested in this job?
    3. What are your strengths?
    4. What are your weaknesses?
    5. Where do you hope to be in five years?

I know I can’t be the only person who has had to answer these 5 questions time and time again. So accept your fate and go over potential answers. Practice your answers. Know your answers. Feel good about your answers! Let’s be honest, sometimes you’re not going to know an answer, and that’s okay too. We’re all human! They key is to be honest and to be positive.  It’s okay to say that you’ve never worked with a specific system before because you’re willing to learn it. It’s okay that you’ve never worked in this particular division, because here are some transferable skills you think will allow you to be successful through this transition. Make sure you always follow up any weakness with what steps you are taking to better yourself. Nobody is perfect!

Don’t forget to also check out resources for your particular industry. Different career paths will involve different interviews. Maybe you’ll have to take a technical exam or a psych test. Interview questions for a teacher or a counselor are going to look very different than that of a web developer or a high profile business manager. Know your industry and know your jargon. If they’re going to ask about how you increased sales then I’d hope you have some information about your sales numbers from your previous job. If necessary, pull the correct files, build the correct portfolio, or practice a star presentation.

  • PREPARE QUESTIONS- Without fail your interviewer is going to ask you if you have any questions. Your answer should always be yes because you have come to this interview prepared!  Assuming this is your first interview, it’s typically not proper to talk about anything too sensitive just yet.  Unless your interviewer has already brought up information about a potential salary/benefits/401K/etc., we’re just going to leave these questions aside for later. This is your time to find out about your potential job and coworkers. You want to find out if this job is something you would like to have and if this team is one you’d like to be on. Take advantage and ask the right questions. Here are some of my favorite go-to’s:
    1. What is the dynamic of your office like?
    2. What would my average day look like?
    3. What skills would your ideal candidate possess?
    4. What is your favorite part of working for this company?
    5. Do you have any questions/concerns/reservations for me in this position?

Have your questions ready and waiting in your nice portfolio so that you don’t feel rushed or put on the spot at the end of the interview.

This is definitely the longest post I’ve written in a long time. Good thing I split it into two parts! Next up? What to wear and what to bring with you to your interview!